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Then that tomorrow-sex rarely comes, pun fully intended. As a certified sex coach and sexologist, I often hear about how difficult it is to make time for intimacy while leading hectic lives. This is exactly what it sounds like: sitting down with your partner and marking sex dates into your calendar.
But for some people, scheduling sex is critical for maintaining a healthy relationship, hence the moniker. Even though sex is typically so, so vital for relationship happiness, people often let it fall by the wayside in long-term couplehood. Scheduling sex is an amazing way for partners to keep intimacy and satisfaction alive.
It feels like a more intentional step towards intimacy than scheduling via text and the like. Even give it a deated color.
I suggest hot pink or red. You can guess why. I mean, even my admin at the office knows not to schedule any meetings on Tuesday afternoons. I just always have a block on my schedule for that chunk of time.
Having a sex schedule does not mean you need to have intercourse every time or ever. The point is scheduling time to engage in whatever activities make you feel more closely connected. This level of flexibility respects the fact that life happens. This flexibility also acknowledges that some people experience a more responsive form of desire and really only become aroused after seduction and sexual touching have begun.
So, talk about what scheduling sex really encompasses. Be willing to compromise so both of you are satisfied. One of the biggest issues couples have with this process is not following through. I often have clients who note there is a sense of pressure when they first start a sex schedule, which can scare them away. For some people, that drops off once they get used to it. But it may also take some playing around to land on a version of scheduling sex that works for you.
It sets the sex date into your routine along with the opportunity to explore new sexual terrain. On top of all of that, occasional spontaneous sex rather than your typical scheduled sex becomes even more exciting because it's so novel. Long-lasting sexual excitement is built on the unknown, the new, and the exploration of fantasy. Capitalize on that here. You might think of a different, intriguing sex position or pick up some cute new underwear for the occasion. I bought something for us to try. It doesn't automatically mean your relationship is over or in trouble.
It might not be your jam. This advice can still serve as a blueprint for becoming closer: Sit down. And draw up a plan for quality time that might work better for you both. Gigi Engle is a certified sex coach, sexologist, educator, and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram GigiEngle.
SELF does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Any information published on this website or by this brand is not intended as a substitute for medical advice, and you should not take any action before consulting with a healthcare professional. Figure out a day and time that works for both of you. Be flexible about what kinds of intimacy are involved. Gigi Engle is a feminist writer, certified sex coach, and sex educator. School, she teaches a variety of classes centered around pleasure, sexual health, and confidence.
Gigi's work regularly appears in many publications including Brides, Marie Claire.
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